Do you know the kind of people who always talk about making plans, but when it comes to actually making plans, there's little to no follow through? I seem to have surrounded myself with this personality type. I'll give you an example. I love camping and hiking, and it's always more fun to go with people. More than a few times this topic has come up in conversation, and it's always met the same way. "Oh, we love to do that, we should totally do that." That's almost word for word what I hear every time. And I fall for it every time. I always feel this little glimmer of hope that, even though I heard it from the same people before, this time they mean it. I've finally found companions to share in outdoor adventures with. But that's as far as it ever goes. Whenever I attempt to make any actual plans to engage in said activities, I quickly discover there's nothing to be had, other than disappointment. Sometimes, my suggestion is completely dismissed with zero consideration. But more often than not, (and this is the one that really bugs me) the response is, "Yeah, that sounds like fun. We'll have to talk about it." And then nothing more is said about it until I bring it up again a day or two later. And then the response is...(insert lame excuse here) And yes, the excuses are all lame, at this point in the conversation they can be nothing but lame. Even if the excuse sounds like a valid one, it's validity is negated by the fact that it wasn't expressed in the very beginning. Aside from the obvious of course, "I broke my back yesterday trying to prevent a crime from being committed."
So, I guess my message here is, if you don't want to do something I suggest, or if you have no intention of following through, just say that to begin with. I'm pretty sure that anyone who knows me well, has at one time or another invited me to do something, and my reply was along the lines of, "Wow, that really doesn't sound like any fun to me." Now I'm not saying that you have to be that abrasive about it. Just be straight forward, because otherwise you're just wasting my time and energy.
Children seem to be the biggest excuse. As most of the people I know have started having kids, I've noticed that along with the kids comes this strange idea that most activities are out of bounds. These people seem to think that they can't do anything outside of their own house.
Personally, I find sitting around the house all weekend watching tv boring as hell. Maybe some people don't. But I'm not going to wait around for them anymore. The older I get, the more I realize that life is a gift, and once it's gone there's no getting it back. And when this life is at an end, I'm not going to be someone who looks back on my life and says, "Well, I never walked in the sacred forest in Japan, or tryed to count the stars, but I did log a ton of hours playing xbox."
Ok, I think I've ranted enough. I guess the point is, I'm sick of being surrounded by people who never want to acually DO anything. Or maybe I've got it all wrong, and they just don't want to do anything with me. And if that's the case, that's fine. Either way, I'm done. I'm done waiting for people to run out of excuses. I'm done wasting my time and effort on poeple who aren't willing to waste a little of their's on me.